Our lives are shaped by our actions, feelings and thoughts and in turn our identities. Equally, who we are, I believe, is also passed down through our genes but this informs only a small part of our make up. Environmental impact and what we acquaint ourselves with through doing and living, brings together the whole of who we are. At some point in our lives we all encounter a barrier or barriers...., make fear-based decisions and we are often confronted by many incidents of self doubt, allowing these feelings to dictate our actions, or rather lack of actions. What is unfortunate about this state of affairs, is that we often bypass aspects in life that could be beneficial and important to us.
I have experienced so many missed opportunities due to my fears and I often think about how different my life could have been if only I had done that which I had doubted all the time, then! Over the recent past, I have continually worked at improving my self-image, on both physical and emotional levels...the self-doubt regarding embarking on a journey of health and weight loss uptopia is what has shackled me against advancing or succeeding in that which I desperately sought. I have always second-guessed my abilities - I think it's natural that most of us do!
Being overweight, and obese most of my life has always created fear and self-doubt - emotionally and physically. I recall my high school physical education classes, when I knew that a certain "impossible" exercise or routine was going to be a part of those 35 minutes that would make me uncomfortable or test my endurance and I would get physically ill...often, with the coach taking me home to rest or sending me to the school sick room to lie down - whether it was feigned illness or my actual refusal to participate. Sometimes I would sit and observe my class mates in envy, wishing I could do that pole vault or jump over the bars of the high jump structure...and while observing them, I may have snacked on a chocolate!!!
This was the pattern of my life - my fears and self-doubt were fueled by my ability to eat and think nothing of what I was doing to my body and mind in the process of using food as a feel-good stimulator. I guess this progressed into who I was, became my identity so to speak and made everything that was regular in life to healthier, slimmer individuals, impossible for me to do. I believed I could not do it. Period!
(July) 2013 has been my watershed year, or coming out of my self-doubt so to speak. I tackled a change in lifestyle a day after turning 45, and with this change, 6 months later, I find that I am in a position to conquer some of my fears and self-doubt which has always closed certain doors for me. Early in January this year in chats with my family, about looking at ways of improving our family time through activity, the issue of cycling together came up...a huge challenge for me as I had last cycled as a child, on my chopper bicycle back in the day and being overweight over the years, I was never able to get onto a bike and ride. This has been but a dream for me and more so, after receiving a weight loss reward of a trip to New York City on the 1 year anniversary of the beginning of my journey to a newer me, I wanted the opportunity to ride a bicycle in Central Park...instead of being driven on a horse and carriage or a park buggy. Putting this into action has been more difficult than I envisioned - getting onto the bike that was bought for teaching me this skill, has proved very challenging - this said though, I see the changes, from someone who could not ride a bike for at least 30 years to be at a point in my life where I can actually get onto the bike and balance my weight on it, is an amazing feat and the ability to face my fear of cycling - and no, the adage it's like riding a bicycle is most certainly not true....even though I rode as a child, I had unlearned that skill over the years through sheer laziness and fear. 21 January 2014 was the day I got into the saddle of my bicycle and this began a series of interventions that has started the unraveling and the conquering of my fears.
I have experienced so many missed opportunities due to my fears and I often think about how different my life could have been if only I had done that which I had doubted all the time, then! Over the recent past, I have continually worked at improving my self-image, on both physical and emotional levels...the self-doubt regarding embarking on a journey of health and weight loss uptopia is what has shackled me against advancing or succeeding in that which I desperately sought. I have always second-guessed my abilities - I think it's natural that most of us do!
Being overweight, and obese most of my life has always created fear and self-doubt - emotionally and physically. I recall my high school physical education classes, when I knew that a certain "impossible" exercise or routine was going to be a part of those 35 minutes that would make me uncomfortable or test my endurance and I would get physically ill...often, with the coach taking me home to rest or sending me to the school sick room to lie down - whether it was feigned illness or my actual refusal to participate. Sometimes I would sit and observe my class mates in envy, wishing I could do that pole vault or jump over the bars of the high jump structure...and while observing them, I may have snacked on a chocolate!!!
This was the pattern of my life - my fears and self-doubt were fueled by my ability to eat and think nothing of what I was doing to my body and mind in the process of using food as a feel-good stimulator. I guess this progressed into who I was, became my identity so to speak and made everything that was regular in life to healthier, slimmer individuals, impossible for me to do. I believed I could not do it. Period!
(July) 2013 has been my watershed year, or coming out of my self-doubt so to speak. I tackled a change in lifestyle a day after turning 45, and with this change, 6 months later, I find that I am in a position to conquer some of my fears and self-doubt which has always closed certain doors for me. Early in January this year in chats with my family, about looking at ways of improving our family time through activity, the issue of cycling together came up...a huge challenge for me as I had last cycled as a child, on my chopper bicycle back in the day and being overweight over the years, I was never able to get onto a bike and ride. This has been but a dream for me and more so, after receiving a weight loss reward of a trip to New York City on the 1 year anniversary of the beginning of my journey to a newer me, I wanted the opportunity to ride a bicycle in Central Park...instead of being driven on a horse and carriage or a park buggy. Putting this into action has been more difficult than I envisioned - getting onto the bike that was bought for teaching me this skill, has proved very challenging - this said though, I see the changes, from someone who could not ride a bike for at least 30 years to be at a point in my life where I can actually get onto the bike and balance my weight on it, is an amazing feat and the ability to face my fear of cycling - and no, the adage it's like riding a bicycle is most certainly not true....even though I rode as a child, I had unlearned that skill over the years through sheer laziness and fear. 21 January 2014 was the day I got into the saddle of my bicycle and this began a series of interventions that has started the unraveling and the conquering of my fears.
Fear is a normal part of any major life change. Address this
emotion and release it. Keep moving forward by challenging any feelings that
cause you to sabotage your weight loss and all that goes with a healthy lifestyle, fears that have, like mine, shackled you forever, and break free from the chains that have bound you and focus on your positive growth.
What challenges will dominate you today?
Beautifully put, Prava. I find that I am changing mentally and emotionally too. I find I am becoming more outspoken. Kudos to you for conquering your fears!
ReplyDeleteThanks Tam! it's an amazing, rewarding change and I'm so glad that you're experiencing the positive spin-offs too. This is so exciting xxx
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